A six-week group coaching programme to bring personal and professional transformation
Feel like you haven't unlocked your full potential?
Do you feel like you have self-defeating habits?
Do you feel worried, stressed, overwhelmed or anxious?
Do you feel unfulfilled and that your life lacks purpose?
Would you like to get out of your way and create your own best life?
Acceptance and commitment coaching is a science-backed empirically supported model that helps to create psychological flexibility and behaviour change.
Real change comes from learning how to manage your mind.
Acceptance and commitment coaching will give you those tools and help you:
Build strength from the inside.
Unhook from unhelpful thoughts & beliefs.
Help you to discover what matters to you.
Teach you to be fully present and create a place of calm, peace and stability.
Help you build confidence.
Help you build self-compassion and a sense of self-worth.
Help you work towards achieving your goals.
Unlock your full potential and help you create a rich and meaningful life full of vitality and purpose.
Are you on the right path?
Many of us experience a calling to do more and create a life of lasting impact, but our fears get in the way.
Meaning our daily actions and contributions are not in line with our deeper convictions.
If you are ready to embrace a new way of thinking and move towards mastery of your life.
If you are ready to build habits that stick, change behaviours and step into who you want to be.
Then join acceptance and commitment coach Gary Bridgeman on a six-week group coaching experience that will change your world.
By the end of the six weeks you’ll;
Be a more loving and compassionate person
Have less anxiety and stress
Have a regular mindfulness practice
Give (and receive) more from life
Develop a far deeper understanding of one’s self
Show up and make a bigger impact for loved ones, family, work and community
Understand your unique role in life
What's included in the six-week group coaching programme?
Weekly in-depth group coaching session
Weekly guided meditations
Workbook and experiential exercises
Weekly motivational emails with links to videos and resources
Email support during the working week to answer any questions or concerns
Meet Gary Bridgeman your coach and guide for the next six weeks
At nine years old Gary lost his father to cancer.
This one event become something that drove him to search for answers to life’s biggest questions.
Who do I want to be?
What do I want my life to stand for?
What do I want to do with the time I have available to me every day?
”I suffered from anxiety and fear and I spent my life looking for ways to fill this hole inside of me with drugs, relationships and jobs. I believed that life was something that happened to me rather than for me. I spent a lifetime searching for purpose and meaning outside of myself. It was only by using the tools and processes of acceptance and commitment coaching I was able to wake up to my behaviours, overcome my overwhelming emotions and step into who I truly wanted to be” - Gary Bridgeman AC Coach.
Acceptance and commitment coaching has helped Gary transform his beliefs about himself.
He has gone from lost, confused and stuck to being clear about his purpose and mission in life.
Becoming at peace with the world around him and at peace within himself.
How your life is going to change in just six weeks
The six processes that make you mentally and emotionally flexible and feeling whole and complete
Acceptance and commitment coaching is built on proven science that blends psychology with philosophy creating a unique model for living your life in alignment with your deepest values and convictions.
"Inside the wisdom traditions, there are ways of reining in analytic judgmental language, and the wisdom traditions impact our deeper clinical traditions." - Professor Steven C. Hayes one of the founding fathers of Acceptance and Commitment Coaching
Why your emotions and thoughts stop you being who you want to be
We want to run from our unpleasant emotions and unhelpful thoughts. Unfortunately, this means we end up suffering more than we have to because the cost of this is to avoid all of our emotions.
Our capacity to feel joy, connection and love is directly connected to our capacity to feel loss.
You’ll learn how to overcome your overwhelming emotions and unhelpful thoughts, so they no longer act as a barrier to achieving your goals.
Why vulnerability is the path to happiness
To learn, we have to be able to become vulnerable—and admit failure. Personal growth depends on our ability to be vulnerable, to make mistakes, to be willing to fail, to be uncertain and take risks, and to adapt our approach in our search to be complete.
You’ll learn how to be open and accepting of your vulnerability so that you can become comfortable with uncertainty, take risks and feel complete.
How to access feelings of joy, inner peace, forgiveness, gratitude, and compassion
When you understand the concept of unity and wholeness, you’ll unleash the power within you.
Acceptance and commitment coaching helps you connect to your deeper sense of self and allows you to access your internal happiness.
You’ll learn how to maintain feelings of happiness, inner peace independent of external circumstances.
You'll learn how to develop a transcendental sense of self that you can access to step outside of your stories that you tell yourself.How to live your life with intent and connect with your higher sense of purpose
Once you step away from your thoughts and develop a more transcendental sense of self, you’re able to connect to your greater sense of purpose.
You’ll understand what actions you need to take to create a life of purpose and meaning.Programme Information - Master the six processes of acceptance and commitment model
Each week we'll look at a new part of the model and you'll learn new skills, tools and strategies that you can use to become your ideal self.At the end of each weekly session, you'll be set homework, meditations and exercises for you to complete that help you build psychological flexibility.What is psychological flexibility?
Psychological flexibility means “contacting the present moment fully as a conscious human being, and based on what the situation affords, changing or persisting in behaviour in the service of chosen values”.
In common language that means being able to sit with our unhelpful thoughts, emotions and urges and take action that moves us towards our values.
Week One - Be Here Now
In this module we take a look at mindfulness what it is and what it isn't and the skill of being more aware.
Mindfulness is a particular quality of awareness, in acceptance and commitment coaching we define mindfulness as being aware of the present moment, in a way that is conscious, curious and flexible.
The way we pay attention and where we direct our awareness is fundamental to the way we experience life.
If we become inflexible with how and where we direct our attention - if it is continuously rigid and super focused like a laser beam, or if it is too diffuse, wandering around all over the place our lives will be diminished.
Week Two - Create Space
In this module, we will look at the ways you can create space between you and your thoughts.
We all tend to over-identify with our thoughts, amplifying them in our minds to become “the truth.”
When we become so attached or fused, to ideas in this way, it is easy to see how they can feel so powerful.
You'll be introduced to powerful practical skills that help you overcome unhelpful thoughts and emotions that sometimes hook you and stop you stepping out of fear and into love.
Week Three - Check your story
Since you were born and started to speak, you’ve been asked many questions about yourself. How old are you? What do you want to be? What do you like? Who are you? Over time you’ve built a consistent “story” about yourself.
You have a story about what you’ve done and what you like.You have a story about why you have problems or how you can’t be like other people you admire.
Why you can’t have the life you want for yourself or live a life of love?
In this session, we'll look at how you can look at your story and rewrite it so you can stop being controlled by your stories you tell yourself.
Week Four- Accept and Expand
Acceptance changes your life once you understand how to achieve it, but a lot of people struggle with how to do it.
The first thing to realise that acceptance isn't something that you obtain through a cognitive process, you can't just decide to accept something, and that is that.
It is instead, something that you do with your body rather than your head. It is something that you feel rather than think.
In this session, we'll look at some of the most effective practices that you can use to promote acceptance in your life.
Week Five - Know What Matters
Have you thought about the big question in life?
"What do you hope to achieve and what kind of person do you want to be?"
Have you stopped to think about the bigger picture, where your life is going, and what you are searching for?
People who spend time answering these questions with clarity and depth often come to find that the only thing that gets in their way is themselves. This is because thinking about where you came from, who you are and where you are going helps you chart a simpler and more rewarding path through life.
So how do you do it effectively?
In this session, we will look at how you can get in touch with what matters in your life and gain clarity on what you want your life to be about.
Week Six - Take Intentional Action
When we tend to get lost in the past, worry about the future, react to our emotions or believe our thoughts, we stay stuck in self-defeating patterns of behaviour.
Intentional action is a step-by-step process of creating a whole life of purpose, true to your self, your deepest wishes and desires.
It is the difference between being interested in achieving your goals and being committed to achieving your goals.
If you are merely interested, you will continue to justify, avoid and give in to your thoughts and emotions.
In this session, we look at how you bring together all your skills to take intentional action that helps you step out of fear and into love.
Dates and timing
The programme will take place over six weeks;
25th April 2019, 1900 to 21002nd May 2019, 1900 to 21009th May 2019, 1900 to 210016th May 2019, 1900 to 210023th May 2019, 1900 to 210029th May 2019, 1900 to 2100Testimonials
“I was lost and lacked direction, and I was allowing life events to weigh me down. Over our sessions, Gary helped me notice my thoughts, words and emotions. This helped me take a step back and observe how self-critical I was.
I learnt to accept and give myself some non-judgmental space, where I could find the self-compassion that I needed.
I always felt at ease and found Gary to be calm, honest, focused and compassionate.
At the end of our sessions, I was able to unblock years of unconscious, unhelpful thinking which was really holding me back.
I have had coaching and counselling before, but these were positively different. I really enjoyed and looked forward to each session.
Since the coaching has ended I have made great strides, personally and professionally.
I'm exploring areas of my life that I thought I would never do.
I would recommend Gary to anyone who is seeking real, compassionate change.”
David A - UK
“I have been fortunate enough to have some coaching sessions with Gary as part of the One Year No Beer Programme. This was my first experience of one-on-one coaching. While there were some complications involved in the fact that we were in different time zones, it was great being able to do the sessions from home, knowing that there was confidentiality and no need to be taking time off work. I initially felt that Gary was frustrated by my lack of progress (my perception) but he was patient with me and made a couple of comments that stuck in my mind.
These led to me fully committing to the alcohol-free lifestyle. After about 6 sessions I got my head around the idea of life without alcohol and being able to tell people that I choose not to drink. We also talked about other life goals, one of which was running a marathon. Now at age 46 I am registered to do one!
I am continuing to make further micro-commitments which are positively impacting my wellbeing. My improved habits are also rubbing off on family members which has been a delightful but unexpected consequence. I would highly recommend having some sessions with Gary - you will be surprised how much you can change your outlook and improve your life in a short period of time with his support.”
Katie A - New Zealand
"I came to Gary wanting to increase my communication skills, further develop self-compassion and committed action. Over our eight session journey, I have grown in these areas and so much more. I come out of each session with greater purpose and tools to help me move forward positively in ways that are consistent with my values. Gary’s coaching couldn’t have come at a more timely period in my life.
A time when I was starting a new relationship, transitioning from a stable 13-year career into building my own company. He supported my medication practice, helped me to observe unhelpful thoughts and emotions (usually surrounding the topic of fear, failure, not being good enough, worry, rumination, perfectionism, over-planning) more objectively, gently and naturally.
I learned diffusion techniques which resulted in the gradual decrease in negative effects associated with these thoughts. The biggest accomplishment for me during this time has been a profound increase in self-compassion. Through this process, I am learning to come to terms with my failures and imperfections. I continue to discover ways to manage stress through more productive actions.
I would recommend Gary’s coaching to anyone who is looking for some grounding in their values, the compass to direct committed action for goal achievement and stress reduction."
Casey Hayden - MA, Board Certified Behavior Analyst
"What stood out was that in a sea of wannabe practitioners and teachers of "skills" and "practices" in this space, this is the real deal: Focused, intelligent, exploratory, tolerant and wise, I'd recommend Gary's very human, humane, and practical approach to anyone."
Neil Fleming - Consultant; screenwriter; playwright; poet
"Gary is a very accomplished and dedicated life and career coach. What I liked most about him are three aspects in particular:
1) he is authentic - he does not present himself as a more enlightened human being but presents himself as he is with all his flaws, traumas, struggles and happy moments. Gary practices what he preaches (and he doesn't preach)
2) he applies illustrative concepts and metaphors when they are useful. So, for example he talks about pouring in more soup to dilute the salt in the soup.
3) he listens and accepts to whatever you say.
He does not pass judgement (not more than can't be avoided as a human).
He allows you to be yourself in his presence. These ingredients have made for immensely enjoyable and very helpful sessions. Be aware, he does not offer a cure, but a path to an improved life that will take more work after the course to truly bear fruit.
Stephan Decher - Managing Partner
“Gary is a very dedicated, flexible, reliable, and trustworthy coach who offered me an individual tailored leadership and communication coaching using a variety of methods. What I appreciated the most is that he is tutoring with real-life experience for real-world business situations and that he is practising in a transparent style, focusing on personal values and supporting individual aims. It was a great inspiration, and pleasure working with him.”
Bianka Hofman - Head of Communication
"Gary is an excellent coach. He has the ability to read between the lines and help you find your roadblocks. He is compassionate and honest. We have covered a lot of ground during our coaching sessions and it has helped me become more efficient in my work and more content with its processes. I highly recommend Gary as a coach."
Catherine Boisvert - Research Fellow
"Gary has extraordinary coaching capabilities. He puts his natural empathy, curiosity and personal experience to the service of his coaching classes, which are always engaging and mind-opening. Whether you need to improve your skills, practice mindfulness or overcome specific challenges, you will always benefit from Gary’s sessions"
Xavier Aubry - Founder and Managing Partner
“One of the best sources for personal growth is within us. Unfortunately, even though we believe we know ourselves well, the pursuit for insights is often blocked by layers of our unconscious defence mechanisms. These might be helpful in the short term but prevent us from digging deep and really understanding what we are about. I’m very curious to understand myself better but the business endeavours keep me on the move and I rarely find time to pause and experience the now. This is why I joined Gary’s coaching sessions – I wanted to explore the concepts of mindfulness and learn more about myself.
Gary got together a small group of men and for eight weeks led our meditations and discussions. We explored compassion, attention, and unconscious mental processes that guide a lot of our behaviour. These are all very personal matters, however, Gary facilitated our sharing and explorations. He is very honest with himself and it also became very natural for all of us to dig deep and find out more about ourselves in the process. We formed a strong bond, almost like an alliance. I learned, enjoyed myself, and am looking to spend more time with Gary in the future.”
Jernej Zupanc - Founder and Director
“Gary is certainly the coach you need for your professional development. He is sharp, constructive and always comes with concrete tools to implement the change you want to make. Definitively worth it.”
Coline Lavorel - Senior Manager Public Affairs and Sustainability
“Gary is definitely an excellent coach! He spots immediately the inconvenient truth about a business that many entrepreneurs don’t dare to hear. After that, Gary proposes a set of realistic guidelines or suggestions to be followed by these entrepreneurs helping them to reach a long-term goal: becoming happier entrepreneurs accompanied with more successful businesses.
Gary’s coaching sessions are highly recommended without any doubt, but only for professionals who are willing to commit themselves a 100%“
Daniela S. Gomes - CEO
“Gary is really approachable and highly insightful as a coach. He takes a structured, evidence-based approach to coaching, and provides a range of really useful material via his blog and webinars. He is able to offer a unique blend of insights from the world of academia and business which is just what I needed as an academic seeking to make a difference in the real world.”
Mark Reed - Professor of Socio-Technical Innovation
What is Acceptance and Commitment Coaching?
Acceptance and commitment coaching is based on functional contextualism. Functional contextualism is a philosophy of science that stresses that behaviour must always be understood in relation to the context that it takes place.
This means that no thought, feeling or memory is a problem is bad rather it all depends on the context.
In a context where we avoid living a value based life our thoughts, feelings and behaviours often act in a way that stops us from creating a life that we want for ourselves.
In a context where you are open and accepting then the same thoughts and feelings aren't so paralysing.
What is the evidence for Acceptance and Commitment Coaching? Acceptance and Commitment Coaching is based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a psychological model and third wave therapy, introduced by Hayes, Strosahl, and Wilson (1999). ACT is based on six core principles; acceptance, contact with the present moment, defusion, self-as-context, committed action and values-based living. Currently, it has over 200 studies proving its effectiveness.
Are you qualified to deliver Acceptance and Commitment Coaching?
I'm supervised by a clinical psychologist who is a peer-reviewed trainer to use ACC with my clients. I'm also a certified life coach with the European coaching and mentoring council and I'm a member of the association of contextual behaviour science ACBS.Do you offer refunds if I fail to complete the course?You can ask for a full refund up to 7 days before the group coaching starts. Refunds during the coaching period will only be made in exceptional unforeseen occasions.
How does the offer of 1-1 coaching work?
If you buy a ticket that includes 1-1 coaching you'll have 6 months from the end of the group coaching to claim your hours. Coaching can be provided over video conferencing or face-to-face. If you do not claim your 1-1 coaching within six months then your hours will lapse and you'll no longer be able to book your sessions. Nor will you be able to claim a refund for the hours.
How do I contact you for more information?
You can contact me by email using [email protected]